It is with great pleasure that I introduce you to my new or not so new children's picture book Children of Two Homes.
If you knew me, you would probably not guess that my family is a blended family or that there is a divorce behind me. I will say that is has taken me years to get where I am today and that it has been a journey of ups and downs for me and our children along the way.
After crying for days or longer I cannot remember, I finally picked myself up and put away the wine (not the kind found in a glass). It was time to dust myself off.
I had to reflect back on the younger version of me. The younger me that had hopes, dreams, strength and vision that anything was possible.
I had to learn to succeed for myself and that of my children.
But how? was the big question I kept asking myself
The light at the end of the tunnel came when I faced up to all the hurt, humiliation, anger, tension, disappointment, feeling of failure and lose of relationships and let it all go.
I had to let go of all the memories and all the hopes and dreams of the past.
I had to mourn the old life, old house, old memories and the old me to give light to the new me. I had to put it all to rest once and for all.
I stood strong and looked myself in the mirror and told myself that this hurt was not going to define me or my children. It was going to make a better version of me one that I could be proud of and one my children could be proud of.
It took time to become the new me
The truth is it took me a year or longer before I looked in the mirror and found the new me the stronger me that was filled with hopes and new dreams.
So why talk about it now?
I finally feel that now I have something positive to offer by talking about our story.
Top Five Tips to become the new you after divorce
* Let yourself mourn your old life
* Let it all go
* Rediscover your younger self
* Don't waste time with regret
* Discover the new side of yourself by exploring new interests
Next week I will reveal how to cope with two separate homes